Greetings, this is a post on MY opinion. It is something which I think many can relate to, if not F off. This is my space, if you don't likw it don't read it. But if you are interested I gratefully welcome you! ^^
Ok, on to the point. I'm sure many of you experience birthdays(if you are a human... if you don't.... are you an alien ♡.♡) it could be birthdays of your friends, family members, exetra.
But have thought that preparing birthday present is a chore? Personally, sometimes I do. Some of my.... not so close friends.... keep reminding me: "Oh, you know, my birthday is coming soon, what are you giving to me." And then you'll add buy ___ gift to your to-do list.
I truly feel that birthday presents should be a token of love, gratitude or appreciate. You DO NOT have to remind them of your birthday, they will give you if they want to give you. It's basically telling them: hey, I know that many people wouldn't give me gift, please give me one, please~~~. A GIFT SHOULD NOT BE OUT OF PITY, nor preparing it should feel like a chore.
But, I get it. Many are to shy to say "why should I" and you know whats the worst part? Majority of the time after you give them gifts, they don't give it back. Isn't it a basic etiquette or basic concept that you return favours??? Obviously everyone wants to receive birthday gifts, it need not be much, maybe a hug or even a simply gesture to show you thank their existence. But those not-so-close friends at the most go onto social media and comment or post: "happy birthday"
In the first place the gift is not a token of love nor appreciation it's a gift out of pity. So shouldn't someone send you a gift as appreciation. Everyone wants to feel important on their birthday. Everyone wants to be appreciated in onw way or another. But my point is, please don't ask for presents, cause if someone really treasure/ love you they will REMEMBER. If no one remember... please go find youeself TRUE FRIENDS. I'm blessed that I have my clique, and when I literally forget my birthday (don't judge, I'm forgetful) they are like: So ♥.♥ babe what do you want for your birthday next week. And in that mement I felt loved, and true friendship. They memorised my birthdays, and I did to for theirs XD that's what true friends are.
So any solution? Yes, forget it!! Don't bother getting them gifts. Some may pester you, just say you prepared it and on their birthday say you forgot and after their birthday they'll probably feel embarrassed and not ask you for it. Or, just say: hey... what did you get me for my birthday then? I need to guage the budget XD it's gonna be awkard I admit, but trust me, you rather make them know that you are not someone to be pushed around easily or can be easily used.
Stand up for yourself. Personally I experienced going to a stationary/book shop and spent hours thinking: what shoulf I get her. And that's when you realised, you barely know her interests/ likes and dislikes. I honestly don't think that you should give her a gift, as you two are obviously not that close.
in a nutshell, please stand up for yourself. You have a voice, use it. You have a life, enjoy it. You are you, be true to yourself. Thanks for reading and sorry for any mistakes made XD
